grat·i·tude [grat-i-tood, -tyood] noun the quality or feeling of being grateful or thankful: He expressed his gratitude to everyone on the staff.
Today I’ve been feeling that I need to write about being grateful for my friends. I’m still going to do that, but I wanted to do this preliminary post about gratitude, in general. I just hope I can do the subject justice.
It wasn’t until I consciously strove to feel grateful, did I start to really enjoy life. Not only that, but I do believe that it’s a critical ingredient to a happy and respectful marriage; and this, my friends is from where I speak. Through my marriage, my husband, I can see the world not as the old, cynical me; but as a refreshed me. I really credit my DDH (Dear Dear Husband) with the bulk of renewing my life, or at the very least he be the catalyst for it. He nurtures that, and you’d better believe, in his own subtle (or not so subtle) way, he calls me out on the carpet when I stray…. but not before I make a total jerk of myself… aaaah- He loves me~!
Not only is gratitude key for a good marriage. It’s critical to any relationship, and the other major one is my relationship with God. If I’m not grateful for everything that God has given me, then I really do have nothing. I’ve made it a rule that I must always be grateful for everything I do have in my life and forget what doesn’t happen to be here for me. I can’t waste my time going to places I can’t reach… yet. Concentrating on what I do have means that I’m not thinking about the negative, whatever that may be. What I’m doing now with these gratitude posts is refreshing my memory, reminding myself that there is so much in my life to be happy about and to remember to thank my Creator.
For me being grateful means that in taking the time to think about the positives, about the really good people in my life, presents more opportunities to project a positive spirit out to others. More opportunities to tell the people in my life how much I love them and how much I appreciate their presence in my life. Another thing is that up until now, I could not tell people how I felt about them. I was embarrassed or I thought it was silly. I thought it wasn’t important. Now I know that is a lie. It IS very important to those around me to know, more importantly TO BE TOLD how much they mean to me. I need to take the time to tell my friends I love them. That they are important to me. Thank them for being in my life. I won’t miss those opportunities again. Too many times we let the moment pass, then regret it.
Another concept I came away from Oprah’s Lifeclass is when she said, “Your presence is enough.” If I remember correctly this was part of a discussion about “what should I do when I walk into a room” or “what do I say?” Something like that, and this sentence, “Your presence is enough” just jumped out at me. Yeah, I really get that and I want to close my eyes: OOHHMMMM.
Gratitude is the fertile soil for Love. See what those OHM’s can do?
edited to add: Just found this quote I was saving about Joy:
“When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find
it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see
that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.”