I got so caught up in my own experience with being bullied (This is a Bully Free Zone). Usually I just have a burst of writing, then publish right away without editing and refining my thoughts. But where this would normally lead to is my hopes for my child, new to the public school system in an urban area. Sometimes I see my son as a fragile flower… yeah, that’s me; but it’s definitely a product of also knowing that school aged kids can be with most ferocious of tormentors and I worry about that.
We had an incident this year with bullying, where the adults of the school did not properly, nor thoroughly, assess this incident to appreciate the full story. What they saw were two kids who accosted my child, one holding his hands behind his back and one punching him in the stomach. What would that tell you? These were kids from my son’s second grade class. They also saw my son laughing, so they presumed that they all were playing. THAT turned my stomach. Autistic kids cannot read or present appropriate facial expressions or body cues. The teacher in the lunchroom did not have the training to recognize this and so she thought that they all were playing. After I got done flipping my wig, I got ahold of the principal and blasted his ear on the need for training for ALL personnel who come into contact with my kid. I explained to him what happened and that I had extensively questioned my son and concluded that this was not playing. As an outcast during my school years, I realized that he, who also does not have many friends, must have been happy to have attention from his peers, in ANY form, hence his laughter. Also, he did not realize what had actually happened. My son said that they thought he was a “robber.” It took several separate questioning sessions to get out of him that he was not playing with them in the first place and that their actions HURT him. I think he still was totally clueless as to what had transpired. Thank GOD that the school acted accordingly in that they have zero tolerance for those actions whether it was play or not play. These boys are now separated in the classroom.
Getting back to educating our teachers. Yeah, does that sound like an oxi-moron? It does to me. These school districts do not want to pay for the continuing education and training for the teachers in their schools. Our principal is suggesting or urging our teachers to get training in autism. It may not seem like it, but it’s a pretty BIG damn step! At the very least, he is acknowledging the need, but sadly not ready to have the district pay for it. Hopefully, they will have more of these workshops included when teachers have to go for their “inservices”. It’s a day when the district’s kids have the day off, but teachers must go to these, I want to say, conventions and take workshops.
Plain and simple. I do not want my kid bullied. My rant of yesterday stems from that; but as a mother of one, I feel for all children, not just my own. Forget about No Child Left Behind. NO CHILD SHOULD EXPERIENCE THE PAIN OF BEING BULLIED, period. My heart is bursting.
- Back-to-School Bully Busting – A Safety Guide for Parents by SimpliSafe Home Security (simplisafe.com)
- Be A Victim: When Your Kid Is Being Attacked, Teachers Are Just Minutes Away (philosophers-stone.co.uk)
- How to deal with a Bully (carlislekarate.wordpress.com)
- Student reprimanded for stopping a knife-wielding bully at school (informationliberation.com)
- Parents of Bullies Get Citations in Wisconsin Town (americanlivewire.com)
- Life with Autism in the Public School System (kwillis2009.wordpress.com)
- To Those Who Bully Back (itstheinterwebz.wordpress.com)
- Why School Bullying Must Be Stopped Immediately (breitbart.com)